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The Ladies' Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness
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Florence Hartley
111
PHILADELPHIA,
June
18th,
18--.
MY
DEAR
MARY:
This
letter
will
be
handed
to
you
by
Mrs.
C.,
to
whom
I
am
pleased
to
introduce
you,
certain
that
the
acquaintance
thus
formed,
between
two
friends
of
mine,
of
so
long
standing
and
so
much
beloved,
will
be
pleasant
to
both
parties.
Any
attention
that
you
may
find
it
in
your
power
to
extend
to
Mrs.
C.
whilst
she
is
in
your
city,
will
be
highly
appreciated,
and
gratefully
acknowledged,
by
Your
sincere
friend
A----.
LETTERS
OF
ADVICE
should
not
be
written
unsolicited.
They
will,
in
all
probability,
even
when
requested,
be
unpalatable,
and
should
never
be
sent
unless
they
can
really
be
of
service.
Write
them
with
frankness
and
sincerity.
To
write
after
an
act
has
been
committed,
and
is
irrevocable,
is
folly,
and
it
is
also
unkind.
You
may
inform
your
friend
that,
"had
you
been
consulted,
a
different
course
from
the
one
taken
would
have
been
recommended,"
and
you
may
really
believe
this,
yet
it
will
probably
be
false.
Seeing
the
unfavorable
result
of
the
wrong
course
will
enable
you
fully
to
appreciate
the
wisdom
of
the
right
one,
but,
had
you
been
consulted
when
the
matter
was
doubtful,
you
would
probably
have
been
as
much
puzzled
as
your
friend
to
judge
the
proper
mode
of
action.
You
should
word
a
letter
of
advice
delicately,
stating
your
opinion
frankly
and
freely,
but
giving
it
as
an
opinion,
not
as
a
positive
law.
If
the
advice
is
not
taken,
do
not
feel
offended,
as
others,
more
experienced
than
yourself
upon
the
point
in
question,
may
have
also
been
consulted.
Let
no
selfish
motive
govern
such
a
letter.
Think
only
of
the
good
or
evil
to
result
to
your
friend,
and
while
you
may
write
warmly
and
earnestly,
let
the
motive
be
a
really
disinterested
one.
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