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The Ladies' Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness
·
Florence Hartley
130
Whilst
earnestly
endeavoring
to
acquire
true
politeness,
avoid
that
spurious
imitation,
affectation.
It
is
to
genuine
politeness
and
good
breeding,
what
the
showy
paste
is
to
the
pure
diamond.
It
is
the
offspring
of
a
sickly
taste,
a
deceitful
heart,
and
a
sure
proof
of
low
breeding.
The
certain
test
of
affectation
in
any
individual,
is
the
looking,
speaking,
moving,
or
acting
in
any
way
different
when
in
the
presence
of
others,
especially
those
whose
opinion
we
regard
and
whose
approbation
we
desire,
from
what
we
should
do
in
solitude,
or
in
the
presence
of
those
only
whom
we
disregard,
or
who
we
think
cannot
injure
or
benefit
us.
The
motive
for
resisting
affectation
is,
that
it
is
both
unsuccessful
and
sinful.
It
always
involves
a
degree
of
hypocrisy,
which
is
exceedingly
offensive
in
the
sight
of
God,
which
is
generally
detected
even
by
men,
and
which,
when
detected,
exposes
its
subject
to
contempt
which
could
never
have
been
excited
by
the
mere
absence
of
any
quality
or
possession,
as
it
is
by
the
false
assumption
of
what
is
not
real.
The
best
cure
for
affectation
is
the
cultivation,
on
principle,
of
every
good,
virtuous,
and
amiable
habit
and
feeling,
not
for
the
sake
of
being
approved
or
admired,
but
because
it
is
right
in
itself,
and
without
considering
what
people
will
think
of
it.
Thus
a
real
character
will
be
formed
instead
of
a
part
being
assumed,
and
admiration
and
love
will
be
spontaneously
bestowed
where
they
are
really
deserved.
Artificial
manners
are
easily
seen
through;
and
the
result
of
such
observations,
however
accomplished
and
beautiful
the
object
may
be,
is
contempt
for
such
littleness.
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